Table of Contents

Introduction
Chapter 1: The Disease to Please Triangle: The Price of Nice
Part One: People-Pleasing Mindsets
Chapter 2: Toxic Thoughts
Chapter 3: It’s Okay Not to Be Nice
Chapter 4: Putting Others First
Chapter 5: There’s More to You Than How Much You Do
Chapter 6: Nice People Can Say “No”
Part Two: People-Pleasing Habits
Chapter 7: Learning to Please: Approval Addiction
Chapter 8:Why Can’t You Get Your Parents’ Approval?
Chapter 9: Love at All Costs
Chapter 10: Romantic Addiction
Part Three: People-Pleasing Feelings
Chapter 11: Once More,Without Feelings
Chapter 12: The Fear of Anger
Chapter 13:Words Can Really Hurt You
Chapter 14: How Far Would You Go to Avoid a Confrontation?
Chapter 15: Small Steps, Big Changes
The 21-Day Action Plan for Curing the Disease to Please
A User’s Guide to the 21-Day Action Plan
Day 1: Don’t Say “Yes”When You Want to Say “No”
Day 2: The Broken Record Technique
Day 3: The Counteroffer
Day 4:What to Say If You Want to Say “No”: The SandwichTechnique
Day 5: The Reverse Sandwich Technique
Day 6: Rewriting the Ten Commandments of People-Pleasing
Day 7: Rewriting the Seven Deadly Shoulds
Day 8: Taking Care of You
Day 9: Talking Yourself Out of Approval Addiction
Day 10: To Do or Not to Do, That Is the Question
Day 11: Tag, You’re It
Day 12: It’s Okay Not to Be Nice
Day 13: The Anger Scale
Day 14: The Relaxation Breath
Day 15: Anger-Up
Day 16: Anger-Down
Day 17: TIME OUT
Day 18: Stress Inoculation
Day 19: Solve a Problem with a Friend, Not for a Friend
Day 20: Correcting Faulty Assumptions
Day 21: Celebrate Your Cure
Epilogue: Some Final Thoughts

About the Author

Dr. Harriet Braiker (Pasadena, CA), is a practicing psychologist for over 20 ears, is the author of several psychology books and has been a frequent guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show as well as many other national talk shows.